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Advice Goddess
| Advice Goddess: Being your ex’s new girlfriend doesn’t entitle her to your hair color |
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Six months ago, my first serious relationship ended. My ex, “Steve,” and I attend the same college, but rarely communicate anymore. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Phone numbers picked up at hot clubs are usually dead ringers |
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I recently ended a relationship, and over the past few weekends I’ve hit the singles bars. Each time, I managed to get a few numbers, but any woman I call never calls back. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Lesbian wonders if male 'soul mate’ might work without sex |
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I’ve been an out lesbian for several years and am only attracted to women. A close male friend recently confessed his feelings for me. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Part-time counselor meets full-time trouble |
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I’m a 40-year-old guy seeing a 29-year-old woman for four months. I seem to have a pattern of dating women with serious problems. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Picky women don’t always end up picking loneliness |
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Women these days think they have the luxury of being picky about men, and you encourage them. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Maybe you and he are just incompatible in bed |
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I’m a 46-year-old woman who just started seeing a 55-year-old man. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Public reading is no place to settle private grudge |
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Q: It took me two years to get a divorce from my husband, a jerk I was married to for only 13 months, after knowing him for just nine weeks. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: 49, bad with money, still at home ... what a catch! |
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Q: My boyfriend of two years has been living with his parents for four years. He’s 49, and first said he had an apartment near them but never wanted me to come over. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: A match made in unhealthy relationship heaven |
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Q: This year, I’ve been going through the process of divorcing my husband. We’re on good terms and share joint custody of our children. The same night we separated, I met someone. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: He’s all-wise, cruelly 'honest’ and … dateless |
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It’s hard being as conscious as I am, which is why I come to you. I’m a 23-year-old man with high standards and a belief in being honest and frank, which some mistake for cruelty. My knowledge of self and understanding of others makes it hard for me to find a girlfriend. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Frog is still a frog after 10 years of kissing |
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My boyfriend of 10 years proposed on Christmas Eve. Excited, I said yes! The truth is, financially and emotionally, he’s not at my level. He lives with his mother and hasn’t had a job the entire 10 years we’ve been together. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Boyfriend’s new roomie means 3’s a crowd |
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My boyfriend of a year has his own home, as do I. He needs a roommate to help pay bills, and only a woman has responded. She’ll have her own bedroom, but they’ll share a bathroom. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Stalkers stalk ... for now this guy is just asking |
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This co-worker guy, who I hardly know, has been stalking me at work. I don’t want to cause trouble for him, but ... he’s creepy. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: While daddy’s off to war, a replacement moves in |
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My wife and I have been married 10 years and have two young children. Two years ago, we agreed to separate, and I left for Iraq. Two weeks later, she moved a boyfriend into our place. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: A kiss is just a kiss, if only she’d give one up |
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I’m 29, as is the woman I’ve been seeing for three months. After she kept pulling away when I tried to kiss her, she confessed that kissing is very, very intimate to her. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Bottom line, a woman’s gonna try to keep her man |
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In a recent column, you validated a woman’s desire to lose weight solely to meet her husband’s needs. Your encouraging her to take off pounds and get plastic surgery for him is an insult to yourself and every woman who reads your disgraceful article. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Let boyfriend know about his messy ways |
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My boyfriend of nine months leaves a mess in my home, and it infuriates me. Although he’s otherwise a great guy, just a glass not taken to the kitchen makes me boil with rage. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Weighty issues transcend what diet you’re on |
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In high school and college I was really overweight. I started losing weight and found a great guy online. During the year we talked, I went from size 18 to size 12, losing 80 pounds. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: You might want to peek into husband’s 'solo’ tent |
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Two years ago, my husband had an affair. He apologized profusely, but since he ended it, he’s been on his worst behavior. He quit his job, saying that working for someone is beneath him. Fine, but he went back to school, then quit mid-semester to go on a solo camping trip, leaving me to shoulder our financial obligations. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Passive can turn to passive-aggressive fast |
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I wrote you two months ago about a co-worker who was flirting but never asking me out. You said to flirt with him, but date others. He’s still flirting and watches me like a hawk, but that’s it. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Old flame needs to leave new dad alone |
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Even the most secure wife isn’t likely to yawn and go about her business when some woman on the phone claims to be her husband’s “old friend,” which, in her mind, is probably short for “the girl he had all the crazy sex with in college.” Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Tears for your ex unlikely to work as a love potion | |
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Nothing like a little unfinished business to jazz up a first date: “I’ll be the broken man at the corner table. Just follow the trail of Kleenex and tears.” Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Fearing '3,656 Tuesdays’ together quite normal | |
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“Fear of commitment” gets a bad name. Supposedly, you’re a jerk or psychologically stunted if you express reluctance about throwing yourself into a relationship, yet nobody will diss you for, say, “Fear of strolling down a dark alley through a gauntlet of gang members.” Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Ask, ye may receive: Don’t ask, you’ll never know | |
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Guys these days will find any excuse to avoid asking women out: It’s too hot, it’s too cold, the moon’s in Aquarius, or isn’t in Aquarius, or making a move could cause a woman to have an epileptic seizure, go into diabetic shock. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Break a heart or break a lease, just tell the truth |
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There are all these things you really want to believe: like, that you can lose 40 pounds on the Deep-Fried Twinkie Diet, gain 3 inches from a pill some guy in Romania is hawking over the Internet, and that the shifty guy behind 7-Eleven will sell you a Wii for $100. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Dueling dogs may derail a budding hookup |
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Three months ago, my boyfriend rescued a 2-year-old, 85-pound, neutered dog from a shelter. I have a little 35-pound dog I love dearly. She’s been with me seven years. We wanted to introduce them because we want to build a life together. It didn’t go well. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Dawn of the dud doesn’t have to go on till sunset |
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I’m a 31-year-old guy who’s just about given up on dating. My last girlfriend was desperately needy. She’d make me go to the store with her, and when I went to work she’d hang out in my office all day. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Tell co-worker’s hubby to keep hands off | |
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I’m being tormented by a co-worker’s husband. He visits our office often, flirting with me every time, but it’s gone from “Hey, good lookin’!” to getting right in my space and whispering “Hot butt” or “Lemme see your cleavage.” Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: 'L word’ slipped out, and he’s aghast |
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This girl I’ve known for six years is visiting me. We live on opposite sides of the country, and once a year, have weeklong “dates” (the polite word for it). I thought we had a no-strings-attached arrangement. Then, two days ago, she said, “I love you.” Yikes. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Some birthday wishes require written instructions |
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My birthday was that Monday, and he only took me out as an afterthought. As I was leaving for work, he said, “I’ll wait up.” (I work late.) Hurt, I said, “I can’t believe you aren’t even taking me to dinner!” He then lost his temper. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Boyfriend doesn’t have to be a people person, within reason |
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I’ve been seeing this wonderful man for three years. I’m 29, he’s 41. Although he says he loves me immensely, and deems me the person most important to him, I mostly feel single. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Errant e-mails could corrupt relationship |
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I’m 25, my boyfriend’s 28. Our three-year relationship has been near-perfect, and he’s given every indication he plans to marry me. I was secretly (albeit prematurely) planning our wedding in my head when I found an e-mail exchange with his high school ex. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Single dad differs on the depth of the dating pool |
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Your advice for the 25-year-old woman who didn’t want to get involved with a guy with a daughter was disgustingly shallow. In supporting her not wanting to date single dads you’re saying, yes, segregate single parents, remove them from the dating pool! Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: The truth is, pal, pick up tabs or drop the dream |
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As a single male, I find something extremely repulsive. More and more, women are making as much or more money than men. Yet, on dates, when the check comes, these career women conveniently disappear to the bathroom. I smell a scam. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Stop the mommy guilt! Just be 'good enough’ |
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I’m a stay-at-home mother of two young kids. Come Saturday, I want nothing more than to fade into the back bedroom with a 2-liter of Pepsi and the remote … leaving my saint of a husband to handle requests for food, more food, different food, a checkers partner, a Lego partner and someone to read “Hand, Hand, Fingers, Thumb” for the 40th time since breakfast. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Only 'male enhancement’ needed here is to size of mind |
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My wife of 35 years has always said I’m perfect, she’s satisfied with me, and my size doesn’t matter. Recently, a commercial for “male enhancement” pills came on and I said, “Maybe I should try some.” Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Try actually chatting up a girl, not snapping her picture |
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I’m a 20-something guy with a hobby of taking pictures of myself with female friends. Nobody objected in high school, and collecting memories of girls who were kind to me brought me comfort, since girls rarely talk to me. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Stopwatch in the name of love |
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I met a guy a little over seven weeks ago. Days later, we were hanging out constantly and sleeping together. I began to “fall” but didn’t say anything about love because he didn’t. Finally, on a trip, we had a talk about how we felt. Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Not much of a wife or a 'best friend’ |
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I’ve always gotten terrible crushes on exciting, ambitious, bold men who never want anything to do with me. I gambled that being with a good, reliable man would cure me of my pointless crushes, and married my best friend Read more... |
| Advice Goddess: Why don’t we not live together? |
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I love my girlfriend of four years. We’re in our 30s, both divorced. Neither of us wants to remarry, but she’s given me an ultimatum: Move in with her or it’s over. I’m completely committed but want to live separately. Read more... |
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